Most people think sex is nothing, not important, everyone is doing it. I know what you’re thinking, here it comes, birds and the bees I get it shut the fuck up. But seriously listen for a few minutes to what I have to say, because it is continuously brought to my attention how lightly everyone takes this and how much pressure is put on everyone to either have sex, have more sex, or be good at it.
Now, I’m in no way saying that you have to wait until marriage to have sex or that you should find the right person and it will bring your relationship to a whole new level, because personally I don’t think any of those things are true.
I want to explain to the men out there why it is soooo much different for women than men, women get the stereotype of being prudish, never wanting sex, etc. etc.This probably started way back when a few hundred years ago when promiscuous women, or women who actually liked sex were deemed crazy. So first off, your gender kinda fucked you up there. Honestly, just like everything else it depends on the person whether or not they have a sex drive or not. If they like it or if it’s just not something they really want to do. It has nothing to do with how good their partner is, if you don’t want to and don’t enjoy it then that’s you being you not your partner being bad. But guys, just like we ladies will never understand boners and how much it hurts to be hit in the balls, though honestly i think childbirth probably hurts a little more, you will never understand sex from our point of view. It is invasive. You are literally putting a part of you inside her body, sometimes forcefully, that alone is a little off putting. If she was pressured into it even the slightest, and hasn’t completely decided herself that she 100% wants this, then its even more invasive. There is a lot of pressure on guys also, I’m in no way saying that guys have it easy. But girls are almost constantly pressured into having sex, and it drives me insane how lightly both men and women take it.
As someone who’s had sex multiple times with multiple partners in multiple kinds of relationships at different stages in the relationships each time, I can say for sure, it in no way brought any of those relationships to a “whole new level.” Yes it changes things, but you do have to have trust for that person and respect, those don’t come afterwords.
That brings me to rape culture, I shouldn’t have to have been raped or have to be a sensitive girl who gets offended easily, or another goddamn feminazi to tell someone that rape jokes aren’t funny. Flat out. Never. I don’t care if you don’t mean it, or if its “just a joke” its fucking offensive and its repulsive. Not humorous. I also refuse to compare it to racist jokes. Because with rape jokes you are literally laughing at an event where someone was violated, on a deep mental level. Something that literally can completely change someone, and can and has completely ruined lives. And you never know who around you is literally cringing every time you even say the word rape, and they shouldn’t have to tell you to stop fucking joking about it. Its fucking sick. End of story. End of rant on sexual assault.
Now, I just want people to understand that everyone is different. Sex is like a food, some people enjoy it and some are just not interested. Sex probably won’t save or push your relationship to the next level, you can do that without it. And just because “a lot of girls” do it and like it doesn’t mean she will. So don’t fucking push it. If someone tells me they don’t like onions I’m not going to tell them, every time I want to eat onions, that they HAVE to eat onions cuz everyone else is doing it and just not wanting to isn’t a reason.
Because just not having that desire is a good enough reason.
You don’t have to be crazy religious or a prude or scared or mentally screwed up to not want to have sex. Male, female, trans, I don’t care. Sex is totally okay, as long as you have individually made the decision that you want to. Not to please your partner cuz they want to. But because you have thought about it and decided by yourself that you are okay with it. And if you want to have sex with everyone who’s willing, great awesome for you. And if you don’t want to have sex with anyone ever, great awesome for you.
Just stop fucking pushing things on people its goddamn rude.